Tonight, we’re gonna get a little naughty with our blog. I want to talk about SEX!!! All kinds of sex, all kinds of kinks, preferences, you name it. Why you ask? Um, because why the fuck not? Sex is still a taboo topic, why is that? Why are we told to shush or keep those things to ourselves, or my all-time favorite “ladies don’t talk about sex”……BAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!! That couldn’t be farther from the truth, well at least for me and my circle. I can remember my mom telling me to close my eyes during sex scenes of movies, in fact when she introduced me to Halloween when I was 12, she had me close my eyes for the sex scene and the “obligatory tit shot” (as said in Scream). Then, when I turned 14, I had a birthday party with my girlfriends and we went to the movies and had a sleepover. We went to see Wild Things, you know the one with Matt Dillion, Neve Campbell and Denise Richards where they have a hot ass threesome, yeah that one! I honestly thought based on the previews it was just a fucked-up mystery, didn’t know about the sex and six months later I came home to see a Blockbuster rental VHS on the table that my mom rented. You can guess what that was, WILD THINGS! I immediately blushed and said “mom I had NO idea that movie was like that when we went, I swear!”
Here’s the thing, I get parents trying to shield their kids from seeing things that are inappropriate, but who dictates what is appropriate and what is not appropriate. Why are tits demonized and censored when they are literally there to feed our children. When I was younger, I had these beliefs that sex work (back then it was referred to as “stripping, prostitution, hooking”, whatever) was immoral and wrong and only “dirty women” did those things. NOW, I have completely changed that perspective. Sex work is work, and if people are engaging in sex work as a willing participant and are not being trafficked or taken advantage of, I am fucking here for it. Sex trafficking and abuse of any kind I fucking loathe, so let’s be clear. But if you want to make an Only Fans and dress up for pics to sell, or make videos of you masturbating or role playing, or sell pictures of your fucking feet, you do you boo! I am aware that not everyone shares my point of view, and guess what? That’s a-oh-fucking-kay, they don’t have to.
In my work as a therapist as well as my own research as a woman, I have realized there are so many sexual orientations, sexual preferences, kinks, you name it! But I fucking LOVE learning about all it. There is something behind the psychology of someone who enjoys dressing as an adult baby and regressing to infant status that intrigues me. There is something about bondage and using restraints as well as toys to inflict pain that excites me and there is something about a person fully fucking embracing their sexual desires that gets me fucking going. To be confident in the bedroom is not something that comes easily to people, but if it does for you, then BRAVO! I have talked to so many people who feel they cannot fully be themselves sexually due to their partners beliefs or limits and it holds them back. Or people who have never masturbated due to shame or even sexual trauma and after working with me they look forward to masturbating and finding out what they enjoy, what feels good, what doesn’t feel good. I feel so fucking proud of people who decide to take their desires into their own hands (both literally and figuratively) and to take their power back especially following trauma. I could literally talk about sex for fucking days, it is such an interesting topic to me and I will likely do many more blogs on this subject!!! I hope you got some sort of pleasure from reading about this and I can’t wait to write more *insert wink face*!
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