First and foremost, nobody is reinventing the fucking wheel….Why do I put so much pressure on myself to make mind blowing, never heard before content? Does that even exist? I am starting to think NOT! Every podcast I listen to, every post I read, every book I pick up has the same exact message. So why do I continue to listen/read? Because I need to hear the fucking messages. Repetition is how people learn, so why am I surprised everyone recycles the same content/message? What keeps me going is also HOW the message is delivered.
For a long time, if someone was “too positive” I was grossed out, or as my best friend says “it gave me the ick”! But I’ve come to realize it’s because I was so conditioned to be cynical and negative that anything outside of that felt fake and forced. How sad is that? I was so used to doubting things, thinking things were bullshit, and being annoyed with someone who was confident in what they were doing and what they believed in, that I couldn’t possible fathom it being real. Have you figured out why yet? It’s because I lacked the confidence in myself to believe I could do the same. This is something I have actively been working on for the better part of the last 7 years and let me tell you, it’s been hard as fuck. Some days I’m a rockstar and I am oozing confidence, other times I feel like a brand-new baby deer learning to walk.
We have said this on the podcast more times than I can count, it all comes down to how you are talking to yourself about what you are experiencing. Earlier this year, it felt like I was being dealt the shittiest hand on the planet and guess what? That’s where my mindset stayed CONSTANTLY. Every day I was focused on “what the fuck else is gonna go wrong today” or “what could possibly be worse” and guess where my life was, literally what felt like rock bottom. UNTIL I made the conscious choice to gather my entire life and get my shit together. I haven’t felt his strong in my mindset in a really long time and it feels amazing! Do not get it twisted, I still struggle with depression every day of my life, but I am finally at a place where that depression is not my entire existence because I made a choice to refuse to continue to live that way.
Sometimes personal development can feel like “I’m too fucked up, I need to change myself” as opposed to “I want to grow in this area” or “I’d like to learn new skills related to this.” They are from the same school of thought in terms of wanting change, however, one sounds SIGNIFICANTLY worse than the others. So, if you are on a personal development journey and are striving for change, I challenge you to reframe those negative thoughts into a more effective mindset of “I can’t wait to grow and flourish” versus “I’m such a piece of shit and I need to change!” Make sense? Good! And remember, you fuckin got this! ~Stef
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